As a young adult – that is soooo weird to say by the way- there’s certain things that I wish people would have told me when I was younger.
In school they teach you how to multiply and count to 10 in French, but they don’t teach you how to do your taxes or how to pick yourself up from the cold kitchen floor when you got your heart broken for the first time.
They teach you what a mental illness is, but not how to call for help.
I made a little list of things, that I wish I would have known when I was younger and that I hope can be of help to any of you guys that are struggling with the transition from teenager to young adult.
- It is ok not to be ok.If you have read my blog post on mental health you will know that I have had my fair share of struggles in life.
Sometimes it’s ok not to be ok, as long as you realise that you will be ok.- makes sense? You will feel like everything and everyone is against you, believe me, we all felt that way at some point, but you will be alright. Not feeling ok every once in a while is completely normal, but if you feel like you are not ok for a long period of time go and talk to your doctor- he will decide if you need professional help.
There’s a page on my blog dedicated to suicide help lines, please call them if you are thinking about committing suicide.
- A broken heart will heal, but first it will hurt like hell.When my s/o cheated on me my heart shattered into a million pieces, it actually felt as if I was going to die. I physically dropped on my knees and cried for my mum- sounds like I’m being overly dramatic but honestly that’s how I felt.
It took me a really long time until I felt as if I glued my heart back together, but whenever I thought back to that time I could feel it shatter again. The first heart break is the worst- but I promise you it will heal.
Do not lock yourself in, go and make some memories- travel, meet new people.
It’s all going to be okay.
- You do not need to buy those expensive acne products, they will not work anyways.When you are a teenager your skin will have it’s ups and downs.
Quite literally actually, but unless your doctor advises you to see a dermatologist and they put you on prescription products, you do not need to splurge on expensive acne products.
They will not work, just washing your skin with water or a gentle cleanser however, definitely will.
Most of teenage acne is caused by hormones, that’s why these creams will not do any good in the long run.
- Use the money you save on number 3 to make memories.I wish I had travelled more, and done more and lived more. Now that I have a job there’s a limited amount of days that can be dedicated to travel and fun.
Also, funds are designated to rent and saving for a rainy day- so every excess money you have will probably go to TGIF happy hours. #IAMJUSTBEINGREALHERE
- Save more money for later.I wish I had saved more money for when I would be moving out.
Moving out is freaking expensive, you need deposits, furniture, insurance, etc.
That’s why I would have saved more if I could do it over.
- Your mental health is more important than your grades.I ended up quitting school for my mental health, and the conversation with my parents was the hardest talk I ever had. But it was also one of the best things I had ever done. I wish I would have known it was okay to sacrifice your grades for your mental health. If you feel like crap, you should talk to someone.
- That shade of foundation/blush/powder/eye shadow/etc is completely wrong.Everyone I know had this phase of horrible colour matching, please go to a professional to colour match you. So you don’t have to go through this entire awkward period in your teenage years.
- You will fall in and out of love with the same person, multiple times- don’t be scared, that’s normal.I have been in a relationship for over 4 years, and I can honestly say that I have fallen in and out of love multiple times.
I have always loved my s/o, but the honeymoon period comes and went for me.
You will find out new personality traits that you dislike or love about them, or face hard times in life when you see that they are so right for you.
This happens, and it is nothing to be afraid of. It just means you are normal.
- Your boss will not be like a teacher, a job is not like school.When you just come out of school, you are still in a mindset where there’s a hierarchy of popularity. You are friends with other students, and mix your personal and school life- and that’s ok.
At work it’s important to not do this in the beginning, your boss is not a teacher.
If you do bad, you will not get a bad grade but could get fired.
You are being paid to do what you do, so it’s important to not take things to casually. When you go out for a drink with colleagues, do not get drunk- you will end up being the laugh of the office.
- Your house will not be perfect, or clean all the time- that’s what makes it a home.Do you remember playing doll house and making everything look nice and pretty and clean all the time? Designing your house in the Sims with only the prettiest furniture and stuff? That will not always happen in the real world.
You will come home to a pile of dishes, because you had to finish a report the night before and didn’t have time.
Your Christmas decor might be up until February, real life is messy- so do not think you are bad at “adulting” just because your sofa has a stain, or you forgot to do your laundry for the week.
Life will always throw stuff at you which you are not prepared for- that’s perfectly fine.